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I Dont Know How To Date.

first_imgLifestyleRelationships I Dont Know How To Date. by: – June 29, 2011 Sharing is caring! 37 Views   no discussions Share Tweetcenter_img Share Share I don’t know how to date. This has come to my attention in recent weeks, months, or more specifically, the last 15 years or so. Every relationship I’ve ever had, I’ve just sort of fallen into where dating wasn’t really part of the equation. I always thought I was lucky in this regard, but I no longer feel that way.To me, dating is the worst. I do not care for it at all. And to be honest, most first dates rarely end up in a second, because I’m wonky and my social skills are definitely a bit questionable. Getting through a date is more stressful for me than fun; in fact, I find I’m more relaxed when I go to the gynecologist.Recently, I went out with a gentleman caller. He was a friend of a friend. I was forced into it as some sort of distraction for a recent falling out with an on-again, off-again love interest who ended up falling so below par that being with him became heartbreaking and disappointing.I had tried to emotionally prepare myself for the date (read: had a martini and a Xanax before heading out the door), and had also cried out any possible tears that might pop out later in the evening, as I am a bit on the emotional side lately. I had also gone to the effort of putting on lipstick and even shaved my legs right before just in case things got hot and heavy. I’ll actually admit my reason for going on the date was more to hoping to get laid than find some lasting sort of relationship. This, I fear, is the boy in me.The martini and Xanax were a bad idea, of course. Halfway through the dinner, I proceeded to tell my date that I didn’t know how to date, that I hated dating and that I didn’t care to go through the process of ever getting to know anyone because I already knew everyone I wanted to know except for Ryan Gosling. Furthermore he, my date, should know that I already met my soulmate, and although he was probably drunk in a gutter somewhere in Bushwick, as I spoke those words, someday, it was going to make sense and said soulmate and I were going to get our s— together and it was going to be perfect in a fantasy world with pink unicorns and bunnies named Fred. Yes, that’s what I told my date in a round about way. I have not heard from him since.Of course this makes perfect sense, because had someone told me some malarkey about pink unicorns and bunnies named Fred, I, too, would avoid them like the plague, and I like those things.So I went home and had a moment similar to the one Annette Bening had in American Beauty – the one where she cries and smacks herself to stop being such a baby. I didn’t smack myself with my hand, but rather with words. And in the moment I was forced to recall the so many first dates I’ve been on, and all the reasons they never resulted in a second. Granted, 70% of the time the choice to not have a second date was mine because I have obscenely unrealistic standards and again live in a fantasy world where everything is perfect. However, that 30% was not in my control. I had literally lost the chance for another chance for the same reason I had with my most recent suitor: I just don’t know how to date.I don’t know how to make small talk and have it involve into topics more interesting. I don’t care to ask questions or even offer up any information about myself. I don’t try to be charming, because it seems like such a waste since I’ve convinced myself that there are only three people who have ever existed for me in the history of the world and two are dead – F. Scott Fitzgerald and Henry Miller – and the other is drunk in a gutter in Bushwick. I am absolutely completely closed off and by most accounts a curmudgeon. Women my age should not be this way so early in the game, but I am. This does not make me innovative or even a maverick; it makes me a narrow-minded a—- . Someone please tell me why there isn’t a class out there I could take to remedy this issue, or at least teach me how to be more relatable to the opposite sex so there is the slightest hope of eventually procreating with someone, anyone.This weekend, I’m going to try this dating thing again. Once again, a friend is setting me up. I have already decided there will be no pre-gaming in my apartment, no mention of my soulmate – although he is, FYI – nor will I bring up anything about mythical animals or my disappointment in the whole dating process. No, instead I will do what they do in the movies and smile a lot. I will laugh at jokes that aren’t funny and put my wonky ways on hold for the evening if only to prove to myself that I can get to a second date and maybe even a third or fourth. Although to be honest, a don’t see a fifth one happening… by then I will have unleashed the real me and that takes a certain breed to be able to handle that level of madness, er, uniqueness.Here’s hoping it’s just a “not enough practice” thing as opposed to a “missing the dating gene” thing, but I guess only time will tell.by Thegloss Dotcomlast_img read more

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Syracuse allows season-high 88 points in loss to Duke

first_img Facebook Twitter Google+ Published on January 23, 2020 at 11:56 pm Contact Danny: dremerma@syr.edu | @DannyEmerman It took Haley Gorecki and Duke almost the entire shot clock to find an opening in Syracuse’s 2-3 zone. Defenders cut off driving lanes and took away 3-point looks. Still, a minute into the fourth quarter, Gorecki drove into the lane past Kiara Lewis and kicked a pass out to Leaonna Odom in the short corner for a mid-range jumper as the shot clock horn buzzed. Even when Syracuse played sound defense on Thursday night — which was rare — it couldn’t stop Duke’s inside-out offense. That 30-second possession gave Duke a 25-point lead and took 12 seconds longer than the amount of time SU held a lead (18) in the Carrier Dome. In total, Duke scored 46 points in the paint and shot 8-for-15 from behind the arc. For the second consecutive home game, Syracuse (9-9, 3-4 Atlantic Coast) showed why it allows the second-most points per game (68.6) in the ACC during a 88-58 loss to Duke (10-9, 4-4), the most points the Orange have surrendered in regulation this season.“We gotta decide what we want to be, what we want to be known as, what we want to do,” Gabrielle Cooper said. “We can’t just come out and expect things to happen … You don’t just come out and get stops. We play in the ACC, the best conference in the country. Teams are not just going to throw the ball away. Teams are not just going to miss shots.” After the loss, Cooper pointed to three equally important defensive missteps that have plagued Syracuse this year: Finishing possessions with defensive rebounds, running back in transition, and “guarding the ball.” Against Duke, Syracuse was out-rebounded 47 to 33, surrendered 19 fast break points, and allowed the Blue Devils to shoot 49.3%, with most of their shots coming in the paint. The defensive performance led SU head coach Quentin Hillsman to question his team’s effort and consistency for the second-straight home game, saying they need to “make some decisions.” In previous games, like against Georgia Tech and Oregon, Syracuse allowed opponents to explode for 30-plus points in a quarter. But on Thursday night, the Duke scoring stream maintained a steady flow: Twenty-one points in the first, 28 in the second, 22 in the third and 17 in the fourth.AdvertisementThis is placeholder textEven one minute into Thursday’s game, Hillsman knew his defense was in trouble. After allowing Duke’s leading scorer, Gorecki, an open look from 3 — which she missed — Hillsman called a timeout to regroup. Gorecki (19 points, five rebounds, nine assists) would be the least of the Orange’s problems, though, as Mikayla Boykin came off the bench and nailed five first-half 3s. Unlike Gorecki, Boykin wasn’t part of SU’s game plan. A “non-closeout,” Cooper said. But Boykin hit her first two from the corner, then walked into lightly contested 3s as Syracuse defenders hesitated to adjust the coverage. Making decisions like that in real-time is something Syracuse needs to improve on, Maeva Djaldi-Tabdi said.“We’re not guarding the ball, we’re not boxing out, they’re getting second-chance points, they were getting way too many fast break points,” Cooper said. “So, they were just picking us apart in those ways. They were just running on us and we weren’t getting back.”One soft spot in SU’s zone appeared to be the short-corner, on the baseline between the block and the corner. Odom (23 points, 10 rebounds) routinely caught entry passes there, took two dribbles into the paint and finished at the rim. Six of Odom’s 10 boards came on the offensive glass, exacerbating the rebounding disparity. “We’re not rebounding well,” Hillsman said. “Even possessions where we’re getting stops, they’re getting the ball back.” SU couldn’t contain Odom in the half-court, and its press didn’t make the defense’s job easier. With the Orange shooting 32.3% from the field, they rarely had the chance to properly set up their full-court press. Even when they did, Duke routinely beat it by flashing a player to the middle or throwing a pass over the top. Even when Duke scored leak-out layups after nearly every made Syracuse basket, the Orange stayed in the press. Hillsman reiterated postgame that the full-court press is part of SU’s identity he believes it needs to win long-term. But on Thursday, a 21-point halftime deficit eventually grew to 30, and the Blue Devils continued to score with ease. “Forty-six points in the paint is ridiculous,” Cooper said. “Absolutely ridiculous. We can’t win that way.” Commentslast_img read more

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